Christian marriage is a gift of God and a means of grace, in which the two of you become
one flesh. It is a vocation in which you respond to the call of God to give yourselves to each
other in a covenant of unending love lived within the love of God. As such, Christian marriage
is centred on God and is your response to His plan and purpose for your lives. The marriage
service marks the beginning of an inseparable bond between you. This bond mirrors the
relationship between Christ and His bride the Church. Jesus gave himself completely to the
Church in a sacrificial love that the bridegroom is to imitate. As the Church responds to
Christ's self¬ giving in wonder and awe that he should love her so much, so the bride is
called to love her husband. For each of you the high calling of Christian marriage is this total
self-giving, in which the love of God is made visible in and through the other.
Such depth of relationship is only possible where our Lord Jesus is at the very heart of your
marriage. That is why we expect that you will be faithful in worship; so that through sharing
together in the body and blood of Christ in the Eucharist, which is the celebration of His love
for you, you will be strengthened to fulfil your vocation.
Rightly, therefore, the introduction to the marriage service stresses that no one should enter
this holy state without much careful thought and prayer. We at St. Andrew's take you and your
marriage very seriously, and treat it with the careful preparation it requires, which reflects
your infinite worth in the sight of God, and your love for each other as an expression of His
love. Your marriage is a holy calling.
Only Christians can enter into a Christian marriage. Those who apply to be married in the
Church should, therefore, be baptised, and able to show fruit of their faith both in an involvement
in the Church and a willingness to live out Christian values in their relationship.
At least one of you should be worshipping regularly in the Parish. Where this is not the case,
you need to begin worshipping and establish yourselves before applying to be married.
A divorcee whose spouse is still living may only be married with the Bishop's permission and
licence. The Bishop will only consider an application where at least one of you is a member of
long standing, a regular worshipper and deeply involved in the life of the Church. Application is
made through the Parish and must have the Rector's endorsement. The Bishop will then
interview you, or arrange for someone to interview on his behalf. Since the granting of the
licence is at the Bishop's sole discretion, no wedding plans should be made before the licence
It is required that you receive adequate preparation. At St. Andrew's, therefore, you will be
expected to attend a marriage preparation course, worship regularly, and intend to continue
doing so after your marnage.
If you wish to have flowers in the church, they are your responsibility. Flowers placed in the
sanctuary and one main arrangement become the property of the church after the wedding
and should not be removed.
Confetti is not allowed anywhere on the Church property. If flower petals are used anywhere,
you are required to arrange for someone to clean them up before you leave the premises
A rehearsal will take place during the week before your wedding. You, your parents, the bridal
party, and any others involved in the service should attend.
Generally about three months is needed for adequate preparation. An even longer period
may be needed if you have not been regular worshippers. Please apply, therefore, before
you set your wedding date. Weddings are not conducted during Holy Week.
We can provide an organist, as well as a list of appropriate music and hymns from which to
make your choice. If available, the organist may be booked at an additional cost..
Photographs and videos are allowed at the beginning and end of the service and during the
signing of the register. At no other time may photographs be taken because this detracts from
the reverence of the service. By special arrangement, a video camera may be placed at an
appropriate point in the Church, provided that no extra lights are used and there is no
Please contact the Priest with regards to the organist and vergers fees and/or any other
ANY FURTHER INFORMATION YOU REQUIRE MAY BE OBTAINED FROM THE
Attend a pre marriage counselling 3 session course. Contact Marius at 060 5445 260
or visit seaspiritcounselling.co.za or email firstname.lastname@example.org
WHO MAY BE MARRIED AT ST. ANDREW'S?
WHAT IF I AM DIVORCED?
WHAT ABOUT MARRIAGE PREPARATIONS?
WHAT TIME PERIOD IS NECESSARY?
WHAT ABOUT FLOWERS?
WHAT ABOUT MUSIC?
WHAT ABOUT PHOTOGRAPHS?
WHAT ABOUT CONFETTI AND ROSE PETALS?
WHAT ABOUT A REHEARSAL?
WHAT WILL YOUR WEDDING COST?