St. Andrew's Anglican Church
5 Wesley Street STRAND 7140 - P O Box 325 STRAND 7139 - Tel 021 853 6208
DEATH AND DYING
DEATH AND DYING
There is no way of escaping the pain of loss. When someone whom we love dies, part of us
dies with them and we are left desolate. It is at times like these that we especially need the.
love and support of the community of faith.
We are here for you.
Please contact us at any time.
This information is there to help you - before, during and after a death - and to assist you in
planning a funeral.
MINISTRY TO THE DYING
If possible, call one of the clergy before death occurs. We take ministry to the dying very
seriously: this includes praying with the person, anointing and preparing them for death, as well
as offering support and prayers for the family. If someone is dying, please call us, irrespective of
WHAT DO I DO WHEN A DEATH OCCORS IN MY FAMILY?
If you have not already done so, please call one of the clergy immediately.
We will help you arrange for the undertakers to fetch the body, and for you to meet with them
later to make the necessary arrangements. They will arrange for a death certificate, a copy of
which will be given to you.
SETTING A TIME FOR THE FUNERAL
Please consult us before making funeral arrangements. Much unnecessary upset is caused when arrangements made with the undertakers clash with existing parish commitments.
WHICH FUNERAL DIRECTORS DO I USE?
The quality of service offered by undertakers varies greatly, and we have learned from bitter
experience that some are better than others. Please consult us before appointing an
WHAT WILL THE FUNERAL COST?
All the donations (both for the church and the undertaker) are handled by the undertaker or can
be discussed with the clergy. Please speak to the clergy regarding the verger and organist.
Christian funerals are both solemn and joyful, expressing Good Friday and Easter. They are an
opportunity to honour God, to give Him thanks for the life of the person departed, and to give
support to the family and friends. It is not necessary to spend a large sum of money on lavish
arrangements. Simplicity is to be preferred, especially in the choice of the coffin and for
refreshments afterwards, if you choose to have them.
The clergy are there to help you. Please discuss all your funeral arrangements with them,
including the choice of hymns, pallbearers and flowers. F or pastoral reasons, the funeral
should take place in the family parish church and not in the strange, impersonal environment
of a funeral parlour. For this reason we do not normally conduct services at funeral parlours.
Because the funeral is the act of committing a person to God, and is the final rite in a person's
life, it is important that the body be present.
Only in exceptional circumstances does the bishop permit a memorial [i.e. a service without a coffin] instead of a funeral. However, if the funeral is taking place in another town, a memorial service may be arranged.
SHOULD CHILDREN COME TO THE FUNERAL?
Adults are often reluctant to bring their children to funerals. Our experience is that the funeral
is an important part of the grieving process - both for adults and children - and that children
benefit by being present. It also helps to foster a proper Christian attitude towards death. If
in doubt, please consult the clergy.
CREMATION OR BURIAL?
The choice between cremation or burial is largely a matter of preference. You can discuss the
options with us or with the undertakers.
Should you choose cremation, the undertaker will keep the ashes until receiving instruction
from you as to their disposal. They are not automatically delivered to the church.
ANNIVERSARY OF DEATH
Worshipping members of the parish may request that the names of the family members who
have died be remembered in our prayers on the anniversary of their deaths.
As part of our commitment to becoming a Christian community, we would like to offer our
support after the funeral.
If you wish to have flowers in the church, they are your responsibility. After the service, you may
leave them in the church or, if you wish, take them away with you.
USE OF THE HALL
Please speak to the Churchwardens if you wish to use the hall after the service.
ANY FURTHER INFORMATION YOU MAY REQUIRE MAY BE OBTAINED FROM THE PARISH OFFICE OR THE CHURCHWARDENS